Saturday, December 22, 2007

Great Learning Experience : Past 4 months

Life is a learning experience and for me it has been a sharp learning curve in these recent months.

Taking up first, I have learned how to behave or to say how to react to difficult situations that one faces in life. I learned that everyone eventually comes out of those bad times that they may face, but the way he/she comes out of it is what matters, one needs to be calm and composed and face it with courage, just moaning over the problems would not help, but to work on it and get going to solve it with smile while keeping faith in oneself is the key to come out of it UNAFFECTED.

One more thing I have learned is that there has to be a strong push each day from within which gets you a step closer to your goal in life. We all have certain goals in life and we all want them to get fulfilled sooner or later, but despite having a clear goal, one may find it difficult to achieve, the reason for this is that we do not push ourselves each day towards it, we leave it for tomorrow or day after or day after and this goes on. One thing I promised myself after this realization is that I must do some work or something that gets me atleast a mm closer to my goal, it could be small task or a big one, but has to be done the same day it is intended to do.

Coming to my family, while I kept myself busy planning my future and building up for the same, I missed out on enjoying with my family and caring for them. I believed that I have rest of my life to do so, but then life is unpredictable, who knows what happens when. I realized that winning an award in academic life or professional life, or getting praises from the world over is not enough for the family to be proud of oneself, what they need apart from that is ones time, a few words of concern, and importantly mental support more than the financial one. They require ones presence in crisis rather than ones money. Believe me, a 5 minute chat of concerns with family members can just get that smile on their face which one might be waiting for since years…

At work, I have learned how same things have to be done in different ways at different times. Working with a good pace is a good attribute, but there are times, where in one should think and then act, I found my pace of work getting acknowledged some times but on the other hand I did find the same pace of work creating problems too. Every job done should be on its merit, if it requires immediate action do it other wise think and act. Same goes with my way of communication to others, i usually speak fast when I know the subject at hand, but I miss out on whether the person whom I am talking is getting what I am saying, so speaking with ease and at gentle pace is what I have been practicing since then.

Next, the most important lesson I got to learn is Patience, I would say I am learning it yet or should I say practicing it. I realized that I used to be pushy about things to be done, and people used to get irritated with this attitude, I realized that things come at their own pace no matter how long one waits for them. Agreed some people are laidback and need to be pushed but that can be done in a cool and calm way rather than getting hyper about it. I realized certain things come to us at the right time, until then patience is required. But with people it may be a different case, they work at their own will, so one needs to find an alternate way to get things done from such kind human beings. So, Patience holds one up in this case for all to be done smoothly.

Apart from all these I still need to learn a lot and that is not to be stubborn and short-tempered.

All of you who read this might be wondering how did I realize about what I need to learn and how did I learn all this and how did I know what I need to learn?

The answer to all these questions is Ms. J.K., she is the one who has been the first one to criticize me if I was wrong somewhere, even at the smallest of places and she was also the happiest person to see me being praised at the smallest of good thing I do. She kept on checking my patience level, each day or rather I should say each hour!!!! She has been the person responsible for all that I have mentioned in this blog!!!! So, if I am wrong somewhere, you know who to catch hold of (hehehehehe), but on a serious note, I would not thank you Ms. J.K., for all that you did for me and are continuing till date, as it would be your insult if I do so and also I cant think there can be anything that could be done by me to thank you, aur haa waise bhi your role in my life is not over yet and will never be!!!

Coming back to the topic, in these past few months, I realized the true meaning when they say “Life is a learning experience and Success is a journey and not a destination”. You learn each day, each hour, each minute, each moment …..and work towards your goal !!!!!!!

2 comments:

jalpa said...

merup bhai... i am truely honoured..!!!

all i can say is u hav a strong will-power 2 do everything n change 4 the better..

i am extremely happy wid the changes u hav got in ur attitude towards life..

m proud of u merup bhai..!!

Merup Kapadia said...

Jalpa, there is one thing i have always believed in my life and that is there is large scope for improvement in each one of us may it be in terms of any role that we play in our lives, nothing and no one can be perfect but we can definitely strive our best to reach the level of perfection !!!!

2nd thing, i believe, self-realization is the one which teaches you a lot, the day when i realized that there is something wrong or missing in me, i asked you what it can be, and you showed me the right path, now since that urge for change came from within and that the right path was shown by you, i had to change and did it till an extent, all the attitudes we have towards life, require continuous check on them and maintaining them is even more difficult than developing them. So, i hope, wish and will maintain that attitude towards life which i have been developing in these past 4 months.
aney baaki, JK tu JK !!!!